T.H.E. Blog

Musings from a Realistic Optimist

2020 Update: Forward Ho!

"Who am I to life coach anyone? I don't have my life together yet." "How am I to sustain a business when I am in so much pain and feel like crap?" "Where is the stamina other people seem to find to be successful?" "Why can't I figure this out?" "Why can't I just effing feel good?" Those were some of the questions that plagued my mind. Good God, I must have tried every free self-help product or service that came my way. I also put bills on hold, ran up credit card debt, and ate oatmeal for weeks so I could invest thousands of dollars in the "best" programs, products, people, and coaching for myself so I could...

A Relationship Begins With You

Many people enter into dating without knowing whether they are even ready for a "real", committed relationship. Because dating is a testing ground, it's certainly one way to find out. Some may find that they are, indeed, ready, while others will discover they are not.

Life’s A B**ch!

While showering the other day, I was contemplating the old phrase “Life’s a bitch, and then you die.” It popped into my head seemingly out of nowhere, as I hadn’t heard it in decades. I remember my friends and I saying it in the early 80s, while giggling (probably because we weren’t supposed to be cussing yet). While it was fun to say on the outside, on the inside I wondered “Really?! Is it true? Is that what I have to look forward to?!”...